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Rest in Peace, my beautiful mother 
29th-Jul-2011 10:56 am

30 January 1943 - 28 July 2011
3rd-Aug-2011 01:18 pm (UTC)
I just saw this. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I lost my father last November, so I do know what it's like. (Cancer, so we knew it was coming, but no matter what you're never ready for it.)

All I can tell you is, let yourself feel whatever you're feeling. Not just sadness, but pain, anger, joy - they're all part of the process. In Swedish, we call the grief process "grief work" - and it is work. If you feel like you have no energy for anything, if you can't seem to focus, that's normal. It takes time - nearly nine months later I still find that sometimes the smallest thing will remind me of my dad, and I'll suddenly want to burst into tears. Talk to people about it. Remember the good things and the bad. Cry when you feel like crying, and laugh when you feel like laughing. My dad's memorial was filled with laughter as well as tears, and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

It sounds like a cliché, but you'll always remember her, you'll always be who you are in part because of her, and because of that she'll never be completely gone from your life.

Again, I'm so sorry.
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